The happiness of most people is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things. ~Ernest Dimnet~
More and more, I have come to realize that happiness is a choice; it lies inside us just waiting to be tapped and is not something that we will get if so-and-so happens.
So what stops up from being happy in the now? If Happiness really is a choice, what can we choose not to do so that we feel good inside all the time? I think it sums up to these five attitudes or mood-killers:
Mood-Killer #1: Comparisons (Measuring yourself by other’s standards) – Why oh why do I not have what he or she has?
Mood-Killer #2: Dissatisfaction (and not Appreciating what you have) – I wish I was a perfect…….
Mood-Killer #3: Dependence (Playing the victim) – If only he or she did or did not do this or that, I would be so much happier…
Mood-Killer #4: Boredom (Not getting a Life) – I have nothing to do, nowhere to go and the whole world is a drab, dry place…
Mood-Killer #5: Worry (the What-If game) – Oh no, the world is going to end in 2012, what if I cannot charge my cell-phone?
So, shed a few tears if you will, stop that thought process there, get into your groove and DO HAPPY!
Much has been said about this and here are a few of my favourite quotes that best describe what I have learnt:
If you are not happy here and now, you never will be ~Taisen Deshimaru
How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now, and there will never be a time when it is not now~Gerald Jampolsky
Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling ~Margaret Lee Runbeck
Happiness is an inside job ~William Arthur Ward
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Hello Joel,
Thanks – I enjoyed writing this one too. And well, we have enough research that proves Happiness is good for Business too 🙂
Regards,
Suchitra
The ultimate short list to getting over it and moving on. Nice change-up for your blog. 🙂
Nothing common about you, Abhinav – you are special.
Thank you for being a regular reader – that you can relate to the posts and find them useful is the best compliment that I can get for my blog.
Thanks,
Suchitra
every Saturday comes up with some learning or motivations from your pen (actually keyboard 🙂 ) and fortunately all blogs seems to be written keeping common man like me in mind 🙂 . All 5 points are part of my life too and reading the blog is like seeing myself in mirror. Hope I’ll be able to kill these mood killers soon, thanks 🙂