Five Mood-Killers that Stop you from being Happy in the Now
The happiness of most people is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things. ~Ernest Dimnet~
More and more, I have come to realize that happiness is a choice; it lies inside us just waiting to be tapped and is not something that we will get if so-and-so happens.
So what stops up from being happy in the now? If Happiness really is a choice, what can we choose not to do so that we feel good inside all the time? I think it sums up to these five attitudes or mood-killers:
Mood-Killer #1: Comparisons (Measuring yourself by other’s standards) – Why oh why do I not have what he or she has?
Mood-Killer #2: Dissatisfaction (and not Appreciating what you have) – I wish I was a perfect…….
Mood-Killer #3: Dependence (Playing the victim) – If only he or she did or did not do this or that, I would be so much happier…
Mood-Killer #4: Boredom (Not getting a Life) – I have nothing to do, nowhere to go and the whole world is a drab, dry place…
Mood-Killer #5: Worry (the What-If game) – Oh no, the world is going to end in 2012, what if I cannot charge my cell-phone?
So, shed a few tears if you will, stop that thought process there, get into your groove and DO HAPPY!
Much has been said about this and here are a few of my favourite quotes that best describe what I have learnt:
If you are not happy here and now, you never will be ~Taisen Deshimaru
How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now, and there will never be a time when it is not now~Gerald Jampolsky
Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling ~Margaret Lee Runbeck
Happiness is an inside job ~William Arthur Ward
09 Comments
abhinavarya
every Saturday comes up with some learning or motivations from your pen (actually keyboard 🙂 ) and fortunately all blogs seems to be written keeping common man like me in mind 🙂 . All 5 points are part of my life too and reading the blog is like seeing myself in mirror. Hope I’ll be able to kill these mood killers soon, thanks 🙂
Suchitra Mishra
Nothing common about you, Abhinav – you are special.
Thank you for being a regular reader – that you can relate to the posts and find them useful is the best compliment that I can get for my blog.
Thanks,
Suchitra
Joel Don
The ultimate short list to getting over it and moving on. Nice change-up for your blog. 🙂
Suchitra Mishra
Hello Joel,
Thanks – I enjoyed writing this one too. And well, we have enough research that proves Happiness is good for Business too 🙂
Regards,
Suchitra
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